[M]ost American women spend the majority of their lives trying not to get pregnant. According to the Guttmacher Institute, by the time a woman with two children is in her mid-40s, she will have spent only ﬁve years trying to become pregnant, being pregnant or in a postpartum period. So to avoid getting pregnant, she would have have to refrain from sex or use contraception for 25 years. That’s a long part of life and a lot of effort to avoid parenthood. – Washington Post
I’ve never been pregnant. I realize many miscarriages happen in the first few weeks, so I might have been pregnant without realizing it. Perhaps “To my knowledge I’ve never been pregnant” would be more factual. But. I have used condoms, taken the pill, used spemicide. More recently the man of the house decided to be sterilized, and I’m fine with that.
I chose to avoid pregnancy and I succeeded. It’s possible that I’m not very fertile – I don’t know my fertility status, really, because I never tried to conceive. It helped that I had money for contraceptives, especially before my state required insurers to cover birth control; it helped that I waited to have sex until I was legally of age. I chose contraception and it worked for me.
If my life had gone differently I might have chosen to conceive. If contraception had been less effective or affordable for me, I might have had an abortion. The thing I’m glad of was that it was a choice. Having children does not have to be a given.