Comments on: Why This Blog is Anonymous, or On Not Coming Out

By: Monthly Roundup (Nov & Dec) « Living ~400lbs

Monthly Roundup (Nov & Dec) « Living ~400lbs — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 20:12:42 +0000

[...] Can you tell I weigh 400lbs by looking?, or musings on anonymity. [...]

By: I'm in here somewhere

I'm in here somewhere — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:10:04 +0000

I just found your blog and I look forward to reading it. I just started mine, and am doing it all anonymously for now.

I gained over 200 pounds over the past 7 years due to an illness, and most people that know me do not know that. Very few people have seen me since I got sick, and I am totally in the closet about my current weight.

I just wanted you to know that you are far from alone and that you can contact me at any time.

By: Micheal

Micheal — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:01:50 +0000

i have to say, i think you are an astonishing woman. this is a great blog and you are absolutely beautiful, inside and out (and especially in shorts and a tank top) :) keep well!

By: Aurora Erratic

Aurora Erratic — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 01:00:58 +0000

I wish I had told fewer personal friends and aquaintences about my blog. It sort of inhibits me, knowing they might read it. I am more or less anonymous, although a determined weirdo figured me out once. Not that there’s anything shocking there, but whenever you reveal so much of yourself, it’s good to have a kind of shield.

By: Cath the Canberra Cook

Cath the Canberra Cook — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 02:27:17 +0000

Deborah, sweetie, have some big ol’ internet hugs. I’m having a very similar life right now in terms of the computer and games and inactivity. Except it’s not much to do with my weight and a hell of a lot to do with my clinical depression interacting with unemployment and some other life stresses. Try and do something to feel better – feeling helpless and down is so horrible.

My personal things that I have to force myself to do when I feel bad are getting outside, and getting some exercise – even a plod around the block can help lift my spirits a bit. Sunshine and movement. And concentrating on the pleasurable, and being kind to yourself. Maybe if you can feel better about yourself, then you can think of caring for yourself with better food and exercise and so on. Swimming is often good for not straining the joints. And you might lose weight, or you might not but just feel better anyway.

By: littlem

littlem — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 02:07:35 +0000

They think numbers are more objective.
*rolleyes*

Lies, damned lies, and statistics.

Then again, visual “confirmations” carry their own set of messy biases.
If one more person says “What are you?” to me before the onrushing madness of the holiday season is over, there’s a very good chance they’re gonna get smacked.

Sorry to be so ranty. I’ve had a day.

By: littlem

littlem — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 02:03:24 +0000

"…and so on. Cowardly, maybe, but true." No. As long as there is prejudice in the world, IMO, common sense. As was demonstrated in rather vivid detail during the first RaceFail 09, there are reasons why people don't use their real names on the internetz.

By: helene

helene — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 03:21:14 +0000

I THINK THIS IS A PICTURE OF ME, YOUR MY LOOKALIKE

By: Serenity

Serenity — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:24:22 +0000

I can’t say i ever had an active life, but i was definitely trying harder than i am now. WTF? I lost the weight naturally–i.e. eating really very little– and now more than half what i lost has found me again. I would recommend finding a good TOPS group, if you are looking to lose weight. Worked for me, stopped working when i stopped going. Best support and unconditional acceptance. And cheap! I’ll stop sounding like an ad for them, but i do believe in it. And i’m going to find a meeting time that works for me and get back in my groove.
Take care sweetie.

By: living400lbs

living400lbs — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 18:52:52 +0000

If you want to be more active then I would suggest you start working on it. I have been there. You’re part of why I’m writing some how-to stuff on exercise.

By: Deborah

Deborah — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:06:27 +0000

I am so upset with myself and I don’t know what to do anymore. I had an active life now all I do is get on the computer and play games, what a life. I am no longer physically able to work and it hurts me to do the simpliest things such as a bath, cook for myself and so forth. I don’t want to be anonymous I want some help and yes I know that I did it to myself andI am now crying for help to get it off. I am so proud of any women who loses the weight naturally without the surgeries that they are offering now. Well if anyone can help a fat lady lose the weight get in touch with me to help me become a PHAT LADY (Pretty Hot And Tempting Lady) again. To all of my full figured women or even fat women keep your head up and keep the faith.

By: Lyn

Lyn — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 19:23:52 +0000

I am anonymous for very similar reasons. I don’t think an employer could objectively hire me and think I am competant if they knew I have eaten entire batches of brownie batter and whole pizzas by myself. Binge eating disorder and professionalism do not, in many employers’ minds, mix. So sad, because I am a great person with excellent work skills, yet I have to hide my eating in order to be respected.